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5.07.2012

Advice From One of My Role Models



"And remember that a no is free. Ask for what you like, and get used to being turned down. Rejection is hard, but to get acceptance you have to put up with a lot of rejection. If you really like something, don’t ever think, Can I do this? If you think Can I? you won’t. You have to say, "I’m gonna do this, and nobody’s gonna stop me!" But you have to believe that, you can’t just say it. It might take really a long time, because people never say you’re good at first. Or if they do, you’re a flash in the pan and it’s over."

— John Waters, Rookie interview

18 comments:

  1. I kind of wish I was a cat so I could curl up and sleep in the green chair.
    Also that is great advice. One of my friends was saying she couldn't do something the other night and it broke my heart, of course she can if she would only try.

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    1. Oh, no! I hope you told her (and I'm sure you did!) that she CAN. Sometimes we just need to hear it many, many times before we begin to believe it.

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    1. You're very, very welcome. I hope all is well. xoxo

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  3. That says it all for getting something done. It's not I think I can, I think I can; it needs to be I'm doing it! Your role model is one hip guy.

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  4. Yes! Getting over the no has freed me up to keep asking and trying for bigger and better things.

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    1. Yeah, I think perhaps this is harder for women than it is for men. My husband seems to have no problem asking for what he wants — and he usually gets it! I've learned a lot from watching him, and it's always good seeing this advice as a reminder to just TRY.

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  5. I tend to tell myself "No" before even getting started. A huge hurdle I am working to get over!! This is such great advice! Thanks for sharing.
    -KJ

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    1. You're very, very welcome. It IS a huge hurdle, one that I still wrestle with every day. Best of luck.

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  6. Did you post this just for me?

    P.S. I've missed you.

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    1. I'VE MISSED YOU, TOO. I AM SO BEHIND ON EVERYTHING. OBVIOUSLY.

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  7. I'M GONNA DO THIS, AND NOBODY'S GONNA STOP ME!

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  8. Your role model is one brilliant fellow. ;) <3 I love that picture of him to.

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    1. Isn't it great? Every time I see him now, I think of you.

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  9. Wise words from a wise man! Rejection is tough - one of the toughest things writers have to endure, I think. A rejection basically says that your work isn't good enough. And you just have to keep telling yourself that your work IS good enough. And once you finally get that "yes," all those "no's" will have been worth it all. :)

    Have a wonderful day!

    ~Wendy Lu

    The Red Angel Blog

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    1. It IS tough. Though I like to think that a rejection isn't always necessarily "Your work isn't good enough," and more like, "Your work isn't right for me." If you keep trying, keep working, keep submitting, you'll always find someone who IS right for your work. :-)

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